I can't believe it's been two months since I've posted something. Summer is a crazy time for everyone. ..trying to get everything done in the few sort months we have nice weather. At least for those of us who live in a state that gets snow for the winter.
I'm excited for a September bride and her family this weekend as they are doing showers and bachelorette parties this weekend. It's a few short weeks until her wedding. I'm so happy for the entire family.
I hope everyone is having a fun and productive summer!
Saturday, August 15, 2009
Monday, June 15, 2009
Destination Weddings cheaper??
I get asked about destination weddings and if they'll be cheaper. It depends. Here's my short answer:
Most of the time it's not cheaper because couples still end up throwing a big reception when they get back. So now they've spent money flying out to a destination (maybe paying for relatives and friends too) to get married. Then they spend the same amount of money throwing a reception later. What might be cheaper about a destination wedding's reception is that it's more informal....a back yard bbq. However, you can do that for a "regular" wedding too. Who says because you get married in a church that you have to rent a hall, band, dj, $30 a plate meal, etc.?
If you're on a budget and need more info, contact your local wedding planner and ask for a 1-hour session to get basic questions and ideas to move forward.
Most of the time it's not cheaper because couples still end up throwing a big reception when they get back. So now they've spent money flying out to a destination (maybe paying for relatives and friends too) to get married. Then they spend the same amount of money throwing a reception later. What might be cheaper about a destination wedding's reception is that it's more informal....a back yard bbq. However, you can do that for a "regular" wedding too. Who says because you get married in a church that you have to rent a hall, band, dj, $30 a plate meal, etc.?
If you're on a budget and need more info, contact your local wedding planner and ask for a 1-hour session to get basic questions and ideas to move forward.
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
What do I do when mom(s) makes me feel bad?
Those mothers! (I can say that, because I am one! LOL)
This post is for those brides who have some conflict with their moms or future MIL. I can't tell you why some moms feel the need to express their opinions in a way that makes you feel unhappy.
Here are some reasons I can think of.....they like to control what's going on...maybe? Maybe it's the simple fact that they kept you from harm for 18+ years (and you're still alive!), worried about her every decision that she's doing the right thing, and now she just can't seem to let go. Speaking as a mom, yes, I believe that's difficult. You break your neck to raise a child. You put your whole being, effort, and energy into your children, and then POOF, just like that you're done. Well, not completely done, but it might feel that way to some parents.
If you are having some problems with family members, the first thing to do is think about it from their point of view. Move forward with sensitivity. (While your marriage is a happy time, it's a bitter/sweet moment for some parents. You're moving forward, and they're left to wonder "what happened...where did the time go.") Second, sit down with them and find out what's important to them and ask how both sides can compromise. No crying, no yelling, no threats, just calm ADULT conversation on how we can get this to work. You need to be brave and be prepared to hear ideas you don't like, and be willing to accept that they might not like your ideas in return.
A good rule of thumb...if you want to be able to say how you feel and be taken seriously, then you must be willing to hear things that you don't like. If you can handle that, you will be able to negotiate/compromise with better success and a happier outcome.
If you're really having issues, check into a Wedding Planner. He/She will be able to coach the whole family through the planning process.
This post is for those brides who have some conflict with their moms or future MIL. I can't tell you why some moms feel the need to express their opinions in a way that makes you feel unhappy.
Here are some reasons I can think of.....they like to control what's going on...maybe? Maybe it's the simple fact that they kept you from harm for 18+ years (and you're still alive!), worried about her every decision that she's doing the right thing, and now she just can't seem to let go. Speaking as a mom, yes, I believe that's difficult. You break your neck to raise a child. You put your whole being, effort, and energy into your children, and then POOF, just like that you're done. Well, not completely done, but it might feel that way to some parents.
If you are having some problems with family members, the first thing to do is think about it from their point of view. Move forward with sensitivity. (While your marriage is a happy time, it's a bitter/sweet moment for some parents. You're moving forward, and they're left to wonder "what happened...where did the time go.") Second, sit down with them and find out what's important to them and ask how both sides can compromise. No crying, no yelling, no threats, just calm ADULT conversation on how we can get this to work. You need to be brave and be prepared to hear ideas you don't like, and be willing to accept that they might not like your ideas in return.
A good rule of thumb...if you want to be able to say how you feel and be taken seriously, then you must be willing to hear things that you don't like. If you can handle that, you will be able to negotiate/compromise with better success and a happier outcome.
If you're really having issues, check into a Wedding Planner. He/She will be able to coach the whole family through the planning process.
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
Wedding Dress Shopping!
We had a great time wedding dress shopping this afternoon. It was fun to go with the bride, who's mom lives far away. It's such an honor to be a part of this special time in brides' lives. We were excited to get the perfect dress, and under budget! It's so much fun to be able to lead bride's in the right direction and hook them up with the vendors that fit them perfectly!
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Having a bad day?
One of those good day/bad day situations today. The kids were awesomely behaved (g00d) so I was able to concentrate on other issues (bad). Ever have one of those days? I actually was able to turn things around by (1) talking to a friend and (2) playing outside with the kids and draw with sidewalk chalk. I had to play referee as they were fighting over the yellow chalk. In the end, we drew all of the cast from Spongebob Squarepants and their houses. The only one we forgot was Sandy Squirrel. I have to say, I was really impressed. A little sad we knew all the characters in such detail, but it was fun to have the kids pick out the correct colors, etc.
So my wedding advice to you is: if you get frustrated, pick up some sidewalk chalk and have at it! Or, call your wedding planner for a listening ear. Maybe you can meet at the park for a ride on the swings.
Wishing everyone sunny days and colorful sidewalks!
So my wedding advice to you is: if you get frustrated, pick up some sidewalk chalk and have at it! Or, call your wedding planner for a listening ear. Maybe you can meet at the park for a ride on the swings.
Wishing everyone sunny days and colorful sidewalks!
Saturday, May 23, 2009
Friday, May 22, 2009
You NEED a Wedding Planner!
It's been very busy the last few days with talking to florists, photographers, going over timelines and budgets. There's just SO MUCH TO DO! Minnesota is a HUGE do-it-yourself state, and I'm sad when I hear stories of frazzled families and horror stories. Why put yourself through that? I could have helped!
I was recently doing a follow-up meeting with a client and her mom and they commented on eerily calm the whole process has been, and how thankful they are to have me on their side. Yay!
This afternoon was I getting my hair done and my hair stylist was saying that her and her fiance want to do something small and simple...outside with a tent. Sounds easy, right? We'll let's think about that. What size tent? How many tables does it need to hold? Do you need a dance floor? How about a generator for the DJ and any lights for decorating? That's just the tip of the iceberg.
Somethings that I've recently heard that send shivers:
Wrong photographer
Underestimate timeline for hair appointments
Flowers - not enough, too much, and just not right
Over budget
Buying when you could have rented
Booking a venue that's too small
Waiting to long to book a vendor
Searching for hours on the internet for vendors
All of these things can be helped with a Wedding Planner.
For more info on me or my services, call, email, or text. It's worth it!
I was recently doing a follow-up meeting with a client and her mom and they commented on eerily calm the whole process has been, and how thankful they are to have me on their side. Yay!
This afternoon was I getting my hair done and my hair stylist was saying that her and her fiance want to do something small and simple...outside with a tent. Sounds easy, right? We'll let's think about that. What size tent? How many tables does it need to hold? Do you need a dance floor? How about a generator for the DJ and any lights for decorating? That's just the tip of the iceberg.
Somethings that I've recently heard that send shivers:
Wrong photographer
Underestimate timeline for hair appointments
Flowers - not enough, too much, and just not right
Over budget
Buying when you could have rented
Booking a venue that's too small
Waiting to long to book a vendor
Searching for hours on the internet for vendors
All of these things can be helped with a Wedding Planner.
For more info on me or my services, call, email, or text. It's worth it!
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