What do I do when mom(s) makes me feel bad?

Those mothers! (I can say that, because I am one! LOL)

This post is for those brides who have some conflict with their moms or future MIL. I can't tell you why some moms feel the need to express their opinions in a way that makes you feel unhappy.

Here are some reasons I can think of.....they like to control what's going on...maybe? Maybe it's the simple fact that they kept you from harm for 18+ years (and you're still alive!), worried about her every decision that she's doing the right thing, and now she just can't seem to let go. Speaking as a mom, yes, I believe that's difficult. You break your neck to raise a child. You put your whole being, effort, and energy into your children, and then POOF, just like that you're done. Well, not completely done, but it might feel that way to some parents.

If you are having some problems with family members, the first thing to do is think about it from their point of view. Move forward with sensitivity. (While your marriage is a happy time, it's a bitter/sweet moment for some parents. You're moving forward, and they're left to wonder "what happened...where did the time go.") Second, sit down with them and find out what's important to them and ask how both sides can compromise. No crying, no yelling, no threats, just calm ADULT conversation on how we can get this to work. You need to be brave and be prepared to hear ideas you don't like, and be willing to accept that they might not like your ideas in return.

A good rule of thumb...if you want to be able to say how you feel and be taken seriously, then you must be willing to hear things that you don't like. If you can handle that, you will be able to negotiate/compromise with better success and a happier outcome.

If you're really having issues, check into a Wedding Planner. He/She will be able to coach the whole family through the planning process.