I get asked about destination weddings and if they'll be cheaper. It depends. Here's my short answer:
Most of the time it's not cheaper because couples still end up throwing a big reception when they get back. So now they've spent money flying out to a destination (maybe paying for relatives and friends too) to get married. Then they spend the same amount of money throwing a reception later. What might be cheaper about a destination wedding's reception is that it's more informal....a back yard bbq. However, you can do that for a "regular" wedding too. Who says because you get married in a church that you have to rent a hall, band, dj, $30 a plate meal, etc.?
If you're on a budget and need more info, contact your local wedding planner and ask for a 1-hour session to get basic questions and ideas to move forward.
Monday, June 15, 2009
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
What do I do when mom(s) makes me feel bad?
Those mothers! (I can say that, because I am one! LOL)
This post is for those brides who have some conflict with their moms or future MIL. I can't tell you why some moms feel the need to express their opinions in a way that makes you feel unhappy.
Here are some reasons I can think of.....they like to control what's going on...maybe? Maybe it's the simple fact that they kept you from harm for 18+ years (and you're still alive!), worried about her every decision that she's doing the right thing, and now she just can't seem to let go. Speaking as a mom, yes, I believe that's difficult. You break your neck to raise a child. You put your whole being, effort, and energy into your children, and then POOF, just like that you're done. Well, not completely done, but it might feel that way to some parents.
If you are having some problems with family members, the first thing to do is think about it from their point of view. Move forward with sensitivity. (While your marriage is a happy time, it's a bitter/sweet moment for some parents. You're moving forward, and they're left to wonder "what happened...where did the time go.") Second, sit down with them and find out what's important to them and ask how both sides can compromise. No crying, no yelling, no threats, just calm ADULT conversation on how we can get this to work. You need to be brave and be prepared to hear ideas you don't like, and be willing to accept that they might not like your ideas in return.
A good rule of thumb...if you want to be able to say how you feel and be taken seriously, then you must be willing to hear things that you don't like. If you can handle that, you will be able to negotiate/compromise with better success and a happier outcome.
If you're really having issues, check into a Wedding Planner. He/She will be able to coach the whole family through the planning process.
This post is for those brides who have some conflict with their moms or future MIL. I can't tell you why some moms feel the need to express their opinions in a way that makes you feel unhappy.
Here are some reasons I can think of.....they like to control what's going on...maybe? Maybe it's the simple fact that they kept you from harm for 18+ years (and you're still alive!), worried about her every decision that she's doing the right thing, and now she just can't seem to let go. Speaking as a mom, yes, I believe that's difficult. You break your neck to raise a child. You put your whole being, effort, and energy into your children, and then POOF, just like that you're done. Well, not completely done, but it might feel that way to some parents.
If you are having some problems with family members, the first thing to do is think about it from their point of view. Move forward with sensitivity. (While your marriage is a happy time, it's a bitter/sweet moment for some parents. You're moving forward, and they're left to wonder "what happened...where did the time go.") Second, sit down with them and find out what's important to them and ask how both sides can compromise. No crying, no yelling, no threats, just calm ADULT conversation on how we can get this to work. You need to be brave and be prepared to hear ideas you don't like, and be willing to accept that they might not like your ideas in return.
A good rule of thumb...if you want to be able to say how you feel and be taken seriously, then you must be willing to hear things that you don't like. If you can handle that, you will be able to negotiate/compromise with better success and a happier outcome.
If you're really having issues, check into a Wedding Planner. He/She will be able to coach the whole family through the planning process.
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
Wedding Dress Shopping!
We had a great time wedding dress shopping this afternoon. It was fun to go with the bride, who's mom lives far away. It's such an honor to be a part of this special time in brides' lives. We were excited to get the perfect dress, and under budget! It's so much fun to be able to lead bride's in the right direction and hook them up with the vendors that fit them perfectly!
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